What I help with
You’re good at figuring things out. Some things are harder to solve alone.
You might be used to solving problems, taking care of what needs to get done, and thinking your way through difficult things. But anxiety, burnout, relationships, and experiences from the past don’t always respond to more thinking or trying harder. Therapy gives us somewhere to look at what’s actually happening, figure out what isn’t working anymore, and start doing something different.
Maybe you’ve been…
- Replaying conversations long after they’re over
- Working even when you’re completely exhausted
- Feeling guilty when you’re not being productive
- Noticing the same patterns in your relationships
- Understanding the problem but still feeling stuck
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When your brain won’t stop thinking
Anxiety & Overthinking
If overthinking were an Olympic sport, you’d probably have a medal. Your brain is good at analyzing, planning, anticipating problems, and coming up with seventeen possible outcomes before anything has actually happened. Sometimes it’s helpful. Sometimes it’s just exhausting.
This might look like:
- Replaying conversations and wondering what you should have said
- Preparing for problems that haven’t happened yet
- Second-guessing decisions you already made
- Having a surprisingly hard time doing absolutely nothing
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When the past keeps showing up
Trauma & Past Experiences
Maybe you know exactly what happened and how it still affects you. Or maybe it’s harder to put your finger on. Family dynamics, difficult relationships, loss, abuse, or years of walking on eggshells can shape the way you react, trust people, set boundaries, and see yourself long after the situation has changed.
This might look like:
- Feeling responsible for other people’s emotions
- Second-guessing yourself or your reactions
- Struggling with trust, boundaries, or letting people in
- Reacting strongly to things you logically know are safe
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When you’re really good at pushing through
Burnout & Perfectionism
You’re getting things done. That doesn’t mean you’re doing well. Maybe work or school takes everything you have, your expectations for yourself are ridiculously high, and slowing down somehow makes you feel worse instead of better. You can keep pushing for a long time. Eventually, though, being productive and actually feeling good about your life stop being the same thing.
This might look like:
- Feeling guilty when you’re not being productive
- Holding yourself to standards you’d never expect from anyone else
- Having very little energy left for relationships or yourself
- Accomplishing something and immediately thinking about what’s next
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When relationships get complicated
Relationships & Self-Worth
You can be confident and independent and still have relationships that bring out a completely different side of you. Maybe you have a hard time setting boundaries, worry about disappointing people, or keep finding yourself in patterns you swore you wouldn’t repeat. We can figure out what’s happening and help you make choices that actually feel good to you.
This might look like:
- Overthinking what someone else thinks or feels about you
- Feeling guilty when you set a boundary or say no
- Repeating relationship patterns you already understand
- Knowing what you want but having a hard time asking for it
And sometimes it’s more than one thing
Because life rarely fits into one neat box.
Maybe one thing brought you to therapy, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only thing we can talk about. Anxiety can come with ADHD. Burnout can start feeling a lot like depression. Grief, substance use, career changes, or something else entirely might be part of the picture too. We’ll work with whatever is actually going on.
What we’ll actually do
Understanding yourself is useful.
So is knowing what to do next.
You might come in already knowing exactly why you do the thing. Honestly, a lot of my clients do. You’ve thought about it, read about it, talked it through with people you trust, and probably analyzed it from seventeen different angles.
So we’re not going to spend every week having the same conversation about why you’re like this. We’ll talk about what’s happening now, figure out what keeps getting in the way, and work on what you can actually do differently.
I’ll ask questions, explain things when it’s helpful, point out patterns I notice, and give you my actual thoughts. Sometimes we’ll have a serious conversation. Sometimes we’ll laugh because the thing you just said is objectively a little ridiculous. Usually there’s room for both.
We figure out the pattern
What keeps happening? When does it show up? What makes it worse? And why do you keep ending up back here even when you know better?
I explain things
If there’s a reason your brain is doing something, I want you to understand it. Therapy makes a lot more sense when you know what we’re doing and why.
Then we actually try stuff
A new boundary. A different response. Saying the thing instead of rehearsing it in your head for three days. We’ll figure out what makes sense and see what happens.
We talk like actual people
You don’t have to talk to me like I’m Therapy Person™. You can be serious, sarcastic, confused, annoyed, swear, laugh, or say “I have no idea” twelve times. We’ll work with it.
You don’t need to show up with an agenda, a breakthrough, or a perfectly organized explanation of your childhood. Just show up. We’ll figure out where to start.